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Natural Response to HIV Positive Test
Being informed of an HIV positive test evokes
the following:
• Profound confusion and a flurry of conflicting feelings
• Shock, sadness, fear and anger, particularly to the
sexual partner
• Strong feelings of helplessness are also common
• Not uncommon to experience short term relief of knowing
your status
It is important to know that there is no right or wrong response,
whatever you feel is normal for you.
Today there are a number of interventions and
treatments that can significantly prolong life and improve the
quality of life. It is important therefore that you talk to
your doctor about the options open to you. Your medical aid
may provide cover for these treatments
To tell or not to tell
Many people with HIV are isolated and afraid
to share the knowledge of their status with anyone including
their partners. Often the reasons for not disclosing are:
• Fear of rejection
• Anticipated lack of understanding from loved ones
• This is not surprising given the stigma associated with
HIV/AIDS.
In the end the decision to disclose is a highly
personal decision should always be respected. However it is
always advisable not to go it alone.
What are the advantages of confiding in a close
friend or family member.
Disclosing to a family member or friend: Guidelines
1. Choose a trusted family member or friend
2. Choose a private place and time to talk to him/her
3. Decide how much you are willing to share at this first meeting.
Your loved one may have many questions many of which you may
not be ready to answer. The initial meeting will probably be
the first of many, so other details may be shared at a later
date.
4. Do not forget to tell your loved one how you think he/she
can help you. ( e.g. to accompany you to a doctor for next appointment)
5. Remember just as you needed time to deal with the diagnosis,
your loved one too will need time to come to terms with the
news. Be willing to give them time.
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